Read the Book

Read the book. No, I am not trying to start a debate on whether the book or the movie is better. I am talking about doing the little things with your kids even when you don’t feel like it or have other things to do. Those can wait. Time with your kids can’t. I have …

Letting Go of Control: From Insecurity to Resolution

“Rather than trying to control the other person, happy couples tended to focus, instead, on controlling themselves, their environment, and the conflict itself.”  -Charles Duhigg, Supercommunicators, 152. My struggle in my previous marriage and even today is that I try to control the other person. If I could get them to see my way or reasoning then …

Was Grandma Wrong?

“Why did Grandma make the wrong decision…” Kids say the darndest things, don’t they? The other night at the dinner table I asked my kids, “If you could change one thing in the world, what would you change?” Boy did they have great answers. One said, “I wish people didn’t get angry.” Digging deeper they wished people …

Helped, Hugged, or Heard

“Do you want to be helped, hugged or heard?”  Charles Duhigg, Supercommunicators, 32. Wow, I wish I had read this earlier in my kids’ lives but will take it now. Man, I would have even appreciated it for my previous marriage. Instead of trying to guess what someone is feeling, just ask then listen. How many times …