"I finally let go and cried in front of my daughter." A friend recently shared about a hard time their family is facing He mentioned that his daughter came up to him crying over the situation. He said he paused for a second, hugged his daughter, and then cried with her. Why are men specifically …
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When you look back at this moment of life, how do you want to remember it? Stephen Covey talked about "beginning with the end in mind." Great advice but I don't think it always applies. Sometimes, you can't even see the next step so how can you think about the end? There are times when …
"How do I get over her? How do I move forward?" These were questions I have asked and now have been asked. Although these questions are unique to divorce, moving forward isn't. We all face death, setbacks, and hurts, so how can we not only move forward but find meaning after loss? Finding Meaning by …
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My divorce absolutely ruined my life. I didn't just lose my job, I lost my role of getting to serve and lead people. I became a shell of a man with very little confidence. There were obvious impacts to my life, but it's the hidden ones that today I can say I am thankful for …
Divorce changes you even when you think it hasn't. A part of your life and who you were is gone, so naturally you are going to course correct to figure out how to survive without it now. Here's how divorce changed me as a dad. I am more present. As a parent, you only get …
"I'm good." Many divorced dads say this, but are they really? Anyone from the Midwest knows that "I'm good" is a loaded phrase. It can mean, "Yeah life is good." or "It's ok but no need to complain." or "I'm dying inside but don't want to make things awkward by sharing how I really feel." The latter was the version I …
I think about all the ways that I have tried to run from God, to go on my path, yet He never stopped pursuing me. "But can we actually run from God?” No, we cannot run from God. He knows where we are going. He is also watching over us to keep us safe. I …
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How do you handle your anxiety when: It keeps you awake as thought after thought races through your mind. It jolts you awake with a thought just as you try to start a new day. We all deal with anxiety at some point in our lives. It's the struggle to control a future event that …
Have you ever just blown up at someone? Everything seemed fine until you lost it. And the moment didn't even last that long. It was quick and destructive like a bomb going off. Everyone just looks at you with that face that asks, "What just happened?" What set you off? Most of the time we …
"The ability to choose cannot be taken away or even given away - it can only be forgotten." -Greg McKeown My mind instantly goes into skeptic mode when I read this quote. I think of the millions of people who have suffered because of the choice of others. I think of the atrocities done to …