“I still have feelings for them.”
Marriage is one of the most intimate relationships you can have. You are completely naked with each other, physically and emotionally. There is nothing between you…yes again in both senses.
This is how marriage should be and is the reason many do get married. They found the person with whom they could let down all their guards and be completely vulnerable.
This is the person who knows all your secrets and flaws but loves you in spite of those. The Bible talks of the oneness of a man and woman within marriage. Two lives become intertwined and connected as one.
Now rip those two people apart.
That’s divorce. There’s no clean cuts. Rather it’s a shredding, tearing, and hacking away at the intimate connections.
Sometimes, one spouse has already begun to disconnect and pull apart the connections while the other is still very much connected. One spouse has been disconnected for years and the other is holding onto broken ties.
Of course, you still have feelings because your life was so intertwined.
It is hard to grasp that the person you were so close to now wants nothing to do with you and even harder for you to let go of your feelings of love for them.
It will take time for those broken connections to scar over. You must deal with the wounds from these connections lest they become infected and cause bitterness and hate to take root.