A moment came years ago when I realized that my ex-wife would never see the man I have become today.
I wasn’t hoping that I could win her back but rather I was upset that I wasted all those years in that marriage not being the best version of myself. I was mad at myself that it took a divorce to motivate me to become better.
Many of you can relate to my story. You are just going through the motions, thinking you are doing your best. For some, you really are doing your best. For others, you are on autopilot. You know you could do better, but why bother? Life seems good.
Sure, not it is but what about in 5 years? Will your future self be thankful for who you are today? Or will they be disappointed?
As painful as divorce is, it does give you clarity. You spend so much time asking, “What did I do wrong? Are there areas I could have done better?” Not asking the questions in regret but rather like a coach watching game film, trying to help his team learn from their mistakes and improve.
You don’t need a divorce to find this clarity. I strongly suggest you do it before divorce.
I encourage you to do as Jordan Peterson suggests,
“Sit on the edge of your bed and ask yourself, ‘What’s one thing I am doing wrong that I know I am doing wrong that I could fix and would fix?”
Get the answer then take action.