“Well I am doing this just to make my wife happy.”
Your wife isn’t your mom or some dictator you need to appease. You are not a child that needs to obey or else. Do the right thing because you want to be the best version of yourself. That’s what your wife and/or kids deserve.
“Easy for you to say, you aren’t married.”
Here’s what I know. When I got divorced, I began to think, “What’s the point? I did these things to make her happy, so why do it now? I am a free man and can do what I want.”
After this mindset failed, I used my kids as motivation and yes that worked to get me going but to keep the change going I needed something else.
I needed to change my mindset. I needed to become the best version of myself because that was the best recipe for a good life.
I had to take ownership of the man I wanted to become.
Secret to the married men, your wife finds this very attractive. She doesn’t want to nag you to become better or have you do something just because she tells you to. She wants you to lead by example.
When you take ownership of your life, it will impact all areas of your life. You will become a better husband, father, employee, and friend. Others will be drawn to you as they see the positive changes in your life.