Have you ever just blown up at someone?
Everything seemed fine until you lost it.
And the moment didn’t even last that long. It was quick and destructive like a bomb going off.
Everyone just looks at you with that face that asks, “What just happened?”
What set you off?
Most of the time we want to blame the thing right in front of us. We might have been set off by a conflict with a co-worker or an argument with a spouse or your kid just hit the final button but these are only the spark that let the fuse.
Something deeper inside created the explosion.
We may give the excuses of “I was just tired. Or I was stressed from a long day.”
Those excuses point to what causes most of our angry reactions. (Sidenote: I don’t believe anger is bad. It’s just a feeling. Sometimes anger is good as in anger towards injustice. What’s wrong is when we lash out as a response to anger.)
We lash out because our ego is wounded.
“How dare this person talk to me this way.” Or we are embarrassed at how our kids are reacting in public. Or we “lose” either in an argument or a simple card game.
They seem pretty ridiculous when you stop and think about these reasons for lashing out. Remove your ego and the situations go a completely different way.
With your ego removed, you can see each situation for what it is and deal with it calmly and collected.