You don’t have to be single or divorced to want this.
Even married people struggle with it.
“I just want to be seen.”
Recently, I heard a single mom of 3 share this on a radio station.
When you are married, you seem to forget or maybe take for granted that there is another adult in the house who sees and supports you. When you come home after a bad day, you have a listening ear to let you vent and/or process through it.
Single…you have the wall.
This is why community is so important. Having friends you can contact at any time is such a healthy thing.
So send that text. Make that call. And not just to a single person. Tell your friends when you see them doing a great job or just call to encourage them.
How do you make people feel seen? Time. Give them your time. It doesn’t have to be long periods. It can be as simple as grabbing your kid, giving them a hug, looking them right into their soul, and telling them you love them.
Write you spouse a note. Acknowledge your spouse’s hard work at their job or for taking care of the kids.
Again it doesn’t need to take long to make someone feel seen. It’s just about taking the time to connect with them.
You never know, maybe your action is just the thing that pulls them out of their funk.