Quick to Apologize

Advertisements “Are you kidding me? You don’t need another burrito especially since you haven’t eaten the first one! Move the food closer to your plate so you don’t spill it everywhere!” These are completely rational and justified reasons to yell at your kids…said no one ever. Sure, I may have been right but the way …

Letting Go of Control: From Insecurity to Resolution

Advertisements “Rather than trying to control the other person, happy couples tended to focus, instead, on controlling themselves, their environment, and the conflict itself.”  -Charles Duhigg, Supercommunicators, 152. My struggle in my previous marriage and even today is that I try to control the other person. If I could get them to see my way or reasoning …

Was Grandma Wrong?

Advertisements “Why did Grandma make the wrong decision…” Kids say the darndest things, don’t they? The other night at the dinner table I asked my kids, “If you could change one thing in the world, what would you change?” Boy did they have great answers. One said, “I wish people didn’t get angry.” Digging deeper they wished …

Take Responsibility

Advertisements “Take responsibility for your actions.” I cannot stand when people play the victim or blame others for their failures. Taking responsibility for yourself is something I tell my kids often. I would even shorten it to “take responsibility.” It’s the idea of teaching my kids ownership but also of thinking about others. When my …

Helped, Hugged, or Heard

Advertisements “Do you want to be helped, hugged or heard?”  Charles Duhigg, Supercommunicators, 32. Wow, I wish I had read this earlier in my kids’ lives but will take it now. Man, I would have even appreciated it for my previous marriage. Instead of trying to guess what someone is feeling, just ask then listen. How many …

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