"It is sheer foolishness and utterly pointless for us to deviate from behaving responsibly simply because someone will get angry at us if we do." David J. Lieberman, Ph. D. I can almost hear the disdain coming from the people pleasers...that is if they voiced their opinion instead of trying to make everyone happy. The …
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"I need to talk with you about some things..." Does anyone else go into a cold sweat when someone says these words to you? Why is it that when someone says they need to talk, I immediately think I did something wrong? I recently had a painting customer email about a minor issue after we …
What if I said I think God is similar to Genie from Aladdin? Let me explain. Genie has three rules for granting wishes but I want to only focus on one: can't make people fall in love. How does this relate to God? Glad you asked. Years ago I prayed so hard for my marriage to be …
"The more self-control we have, the more we see - and accept - what is within our control and what is not. Therefore we can...let go and let God, because we know that when we have done all we can, God will do all we can't." David J. Lieberman, Ph. D. I used to think …
"People who seek self-esteem from eternal sources can never be truly content. They are the very epitome of a bottomless pit." David J. Lieberman, Ph.D. Growing up I sought to find my self-esteem from so many external sources. I would say was this due to not having much or any relationship with my dad. Every …
"When we worry, we live in the immediate. We want comfort and security, and we want it right now." Sissy Goff I mean, who doesn't want comfort and security? Isn't this what I am supposed to provide for my kids as their dad? This is something I have been wrestling with for a few months …
"...people in a rush don't have time to enter the goodness of the moment." John Mark Comer This past week was spring break for my kids so we decided to splurge and go on an amazing trip to...Anthony, Kansas. Try to contain your excitement and not be completely jealous of us. I love going to …
Change your mindset and begin to add value to yourself. You know the old saying, "Fake it 'till you make it." That's great advice for beginning to change your mindset. I had to change my self-talk to begin to add value to myself. I quit calling myself worthless or a loser even if I didn't …
"If you believe you are worthless, then you won't add value to yourself." John C. Maxwell I totally agree because why would I waste my time on something worthless? This quote hits me because it's something I struggle with. I have grown and learned how to deal with thoughts of worthlessness but every now and …
"The hardest battle we fight is between what we don't want to feel and what we know we must do." Unknown Asking for help is a hard thing to do at times. It takes courage to admit you can't fix the problem on your own. That's why it's the first step in AA, "admitting we …